Living in Reaction to Life to Meet Your Wildest Expectations


" You only have to do a very few things right in your life so long as you don't do too many things wrong." Warren Buffett                                                          
Does any of the following describe you ?
  • Do you often find yourself automatically reacting to people and events?
  • Are you constantly at the mercy of circumstances?
  • Do you tend to live reactively?
  • Are you disconnected and separate from others? Do you see them in competition with you for things you need in order to survive and prosper?
  • Is your sense of being disconnected magnified by the false façade you put on to protect yourself? Does your façade keep people out and prevent them from seeing your flaws and weaknesses?
  • Do you dismiss thoughts, people or actions that do not fit in with the way you've decided things should be?
  • Do you live in the past with the residue from numerous daily incompletions you can't seem to forget about?
  • Do you step over problems and emotions to avoid confronting the reality that your life is not working optimally?
  • Are you resigned to living a life that does not fully support you because you have decided that it is impossible or at least too difficult to do anything about it?
  • Do you protect yourself by creating stories to explain, justify or conceal why you do what you do?
  • When you encounter people who oppose you in any way, do you take them out by undermining their credibility with others through gossiping and exaggerating their weaknesses?
  • Do you find that your behaviours, interpretations and actions do not support you to be the best you can be?

The above shortcomings characterize those who see the world as a dangerous place marked by scarcity and competition.  Contrast them with what is possible.
You can decide to reinvent yourself as follows:
 ·     To live your life as an adventure with a commitment to be your best.
 ·     To champion the excellence of others by making unreasonable requests that stretch them to live fully
 ·     To do the same to yourself.
 ·     To choose to invent your future as a daily creation, reflecting your ability to be both the architect and builder of who you are and who you choose to become.
 ·     To experience each day with satisfaction that comes from knowing you have lived from your vision for what is possible, not just what is tolerated.
 ·     To proactively live out of a commitment to whole thinking – having life work optimally for you, for others and for the world in general. Not win / lose, either/or, but win/win/win, and /both.
 ·     To connect with others, seeking mutuality whenever possible because what supports one of us, supports us all.  We are all connected at some level.
 ·     To live life constantly looking for new ideas with an emphasis on possibility thinking, believing that you can be the source of possibilities showing up in your life.
 ·     To see life as an endless series of opportunities awaiting exploration with nothing but abundance and possibilities to act upon.
 ·     To live with a conscious awareness of your  ability to contribute to yourself and to others, the more you give to others, the more you get back in return.  
 ·     To be complete with your past, able to fully experience the present and invent your future out of choice.
 ·     To get feedback from others and have life train you by providing continual input allowing you to benefit the most from what you learn.
 ·     To acknowledge your accomplishments and savor your growth and daily victories before refocusing your sights on what is next.
 
In short, life can either be an uphill struggle that looks like something  you have to endure or it can be a great adventure played  out fully in partnership with others. You get to choose which it will be.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
 -Oliver Wendell Holmes.

Contributed by Deepa Joseph, Bangalore

Posted via email from Edward Anil's Blog

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